Breastfeeding is a bitch.

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I had my first baby, and three days later, I was home from the hospital…a hot mess. Breastfeeding was not going well.

My son wouldn’t latch. I didn’t know what the hell I was doing. Squeeze it like a hamburger patty, they said. Breastfeeding is natural, they said. …


Am I in the right pub?

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I'm a self-proclaimed music lover. I think I have a decent knowledge of music in general. I would definitely be a person to reckon with on hip hop and R&B trivia. I can name a handful of country singers. I could hold my own at karaoke if it were strictly…


An impromptu life lesson on the beach

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My 5-year-old daughter and I were walking the one beach one morning while on vacation. She brought her bucket and we scoured the area around us looking for shells. I remember doing the same thing when I was little. I was always on the lookout for the perfect shell. A…


Don't ever leave me

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Dear iPad,

Thank you for putting in overtime this weekend. Since my husband is out of town, I was getting a little anxious about being the solo entertainment for 48 hours. I can only play Sorry and Army for so long before I stop giving a shit. The idea of…


Why does face cream cost $349?

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Getting older is wild. One day you’re feeling yourself listening to 90’s rap as you get ready for a night out. The next day you’re staring in the mirror, pulling the skin around your hairline back to see if you would indeed look younger with a facelift.

As I enjoy…


A cautionary tale about productivity

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This past week I’ve been feeling the urge to write. I tend to go in spurts. Sure, a consistent habit of writing would be better in terms of building a daily habit, but it is what it is. …


The mental load is real

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6:23 am

I wake up because someone is touching my arm. I slowly peel open one eyeball. It’s my daughter. She’s 5 and she’s obsessed with me. Good morning, little one. I scoot over and she crawls in next to me. It’s early, I have time. But I can’t go back to…


OPEN LETTERS

Are you sure we’re related?

Dear Relative,

We were enjoying our time on vacation. The family was together, the kids all got along, and life was good. We enjoyed some drinks, partaking in the annual cornhole tournament, and talking trash on all the competitors.

Then shit got weird.

You were talking to your friends about…


Where’s the parenting book for this one?

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My son broke my heart today.

He came home from school and raced up the stairs to see me in my office. He had a smile as I said hi, and then my mom radar went off. …


The songs that bring me back to Iraq

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I was in the Army from 2004 to 2008. During that time, I spent 15 months in Iraq in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom. When I deployed, I was 24 years old, and quite frankly, didn’t know shit.

I did know that music was a way to either escape feelings…

Lisa Kalkes

A FT working mom, wife, veteran, and 90’s hip-hop and R&B connoisseur.

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